I aim to momentarily give up all that I know and greet the present moment with a kind curiosity that may require me to tilt my head in order to hear something new.
I'm Leif, and I want to live in communities where we look up and say "hi". I want to live in a world where peaceful communication and connection are the top priorities. I long for shared power and equal access to resources in a world where everyone's needs matter.
I'm human. I'm imperfect. It's okay to be yourself around me. I welcome your rage, despair, fear, confusion, and joy all the same. I've climbed out of tough spots in life.
As a long-time student of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), currently among the Trainer Candidate in Community Path (TCCP), I work with individuals, couples, and organizations to deepen their capacity to weed through the language of disconnection and discover the beauty and power of our shared human values. I support clients in strengthening their ability to express their joy and pain alike in ways that inspire healing, harmony, and closeness with those whom they care about.
I serve as the Resource Counselor at the University of Florida Levin College of Law, educator of social-emotional learning and communication skills for graduate students, and consultant for work communities to shift from a culture of power-over to a culture of power-with.
My unique approach has heart wrapped in every moment.
I do not diagnose mental health disorders, provide medical prescriptions, or replace your primary physician or psychologist. I help individuals learn to hear their own deeper needs and those of others, and to identify and clearly articulate what is "alive" in them. I help shift one's focus onto clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed, rather than on diagnosing in order to connect deeply to our inherent beauty and that of our neighbors.
I've spent countless hours with young people aged 12-19 teaching relational, communication, and self-management skills. Having completed the yearlong Parent Leadership Program in 2016, I further discovered and practiced the rich strategies of compassionate communication as a parent.
I received certification as a Crisis Counselor from the Alachua County Crisis Center. I completed Mental Health First Aid for youth from Mental Health First Aid USA delivered by Meridian Behavioral Healthcare.
Personal delights include string music, mother nature, warm herbal tea, movement and play. I am currently learning new dances as well as acro-yoga! I am committed to embodying love through roles of attuned partner and loving father to an eight year old boy. When I love, I love big.
An abbreviated list of study that informs my work
Nonviolent Communication - NVC’s mission is to contribute to more sustainable, compassionate, and “life-serving” human relations in the realms of personal change, interpersonal relationship and in social systems. www.cnvc.org
Landmark Education - The Landmark Forum is grounded in a model of transformative learning—a way of learning that gives people an awareness of the basic structures in which they know, think, and act. From that awareness comes a fundamental shift that leaves people more fully in accord with their own possibilities and those of others. This work brings a fundamental shift in what’s possible in people's lives. www.landmarkeducation.com
Avatar - The mission of Avatar® in the world is to catalyze the integration of belief systems. When we perceive that the main difference between us is our beliefs and that beliefs can be created or discreated with ease, the right and wrong game will wind down, a co-create game will unfold, and world peace will ensue. www.avatarepc.com
Satvatove Institute - Personal transformation through empowered communication, courageous introspection and purposeful action. www.satvatove.com
LovEd (formerly DEFL) - LovEd empowers singles and couples to cultivate fulfilling relationships and make smart choices in love. www.berelationshipready.com
Shameless Heart - Shameless Heart Coaching is about welcoming the dark places, the shadows, the wounded-places-in-hiding in each of us, and finding the glimmering jewels therein. Shameless Heart teaches that when the fullness and messiness of our imperfect humanity are savored, and when we can reclaim our right to love ... without pecking orders, without permission slips, without perfection ... then our raw and simple hearts get to live wide open. www.shamelessheart.com