Love in conflict
"We fight all the time and I hate it. All they do is criticize me."
"It seems like no matter what I do my partner won't just meet me half way."
"I feel like such a failure in relationship."
I work with couples who are struggling with the blame game. Coaching with me helps partners to listen with more compassion and to speak with more self-responsibility and tenderness.
Conflict is a normal part of relationships. We typically see it as a bad thing, so we run from, repress or try to make it disappear. My clients learn to see conflict as information to turn toward.
How we communicate with our partner and how we self-connect while in conflict is the foundation upon which all breakdowns have a breathing chance for reaching harmony and love.
Coaching with me you will learn how to
- See how your old hurt sets you up to blame
- Express in a way that doesn't ding the other
- Honor your own needs
- Hear what's going on for them even if their words aren't clear or kind
I help couples answer two BIG questions:
How do we create more safety and security in our unique relationship? What does it take for each of us to feel more free to bring our fears and aspirations to one another?
How do we create joy, adventure, fun, and freedom in our bond? What does it take for each of us to feel fully alive and self-expressed as an independent human?
How long is each session? 50 minutes is common, yet 90-minutes or double sessions work far better for couples.
How often do we meet? Most clients meet with me weekly. I strongly recommend meeting on a regular, consistent basis to give out-of-session momentum to our in-session changes. Especially in the first 3-6 months of coaching together, a lot of healing, growth, and transformation often occur that require consistent follow-up. After establishing a strong foundation, some clients will see me for "maintenance" on a less frequent basis. That said, clients are always free to come and go, and I welcome all newcomers to begin by trying a single session to see if working together feels like a good fit.
What are your fees? I request $150 per 80 minute session. In instances where the client is deeply ready and willing to invest in their growth and this fee would pose a financial hardship, I offer a sliding scale. Write to me and let's talk. I do not currently accept insurance.
Are there packages available? Yes, click here to learn more.
Where will we meet? At my office in Gainesville, Florida. If you’re not local, we can meet via video. Some unique circumstances make it more comfortable or safe in the client's home.
Questions? Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call 352.727.5417, and I'll get back to you within 1 business day.