How I work with my clients
STEP 1 - We’ll begin by setting the table for everything far and wide to join in. We’ll welcome the shameful parts, the angry apples, maybe the hurt and hopeless feelings, and anything else that is a part of this feast. We’ll look closely for any resistance to change, and then we'll ask what environment helps grow safety and trust for you?
STEP 2 - Then we’ll download the frustration, challenges, and pain about what's not working. We follow this with asking, "What do you want in your life or relationships?"
STEP 3 - Next we’ll hunt for the story that has been lurking beneath the surface and see how it lives, well, unfortunately everywhere. You'll start to notice the ways you speak to your self or partner when you believe that the stories that you're not enough, that others aren't trustworthy, etc.
STEP 4 - With this core story caught in a spot light, we’ll circle it with at-home practice until its caged. Self-empathy will allow you to begin to experience more personal freedom and more options in how you respond. Ultimately, you can only listen to others as well as you listen to yourself.
Don’t worry, you’ll get accountability support for your homework. When coaching with me, we'll track your at-home practices in an easy online platform.
STEP 5 - From here, we learn the art of listening. We start with the basics of turn-taking that we forgot about in kindergarten. I help to ensure there’s no butting in line and that everyone gets their turn. For couples, with one speaker at a time, the other person will have opportunities to try on new listening skills. For individuals, we will role play the conversations that get you every time.
STEP 6 - Roll up your pants because these last three building blocks get deep and help you to realistically make new habits. Here we'll focus on honest self-expression, learning to reclaim your own needs and not sweep yourself out the door.
Get ready for a lot of new learning about all things communication (followed by a lot of crying that you didn’t learn this 10 years ago).
STEP 7 - Rinse and repeat until you're experiencing the results you set out for. I show up vulnerable and available for your truth to arise. I’ll challenge you. We’ll question everything, laugh, blush because role plays are awkward, and deepen those new roots.
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